How To Come Alongside the Hurting
What a privilege to walk alongside people in their pain. To go beneath the casual. Into the scars of suffering. God chooses to use ordinary people, like you and me, to be a tangible expression of His presence toward people who carry wounds and burdens and scars. And when you say “yes” to being this kind of friend or brother or sister to people... you’ll get a front row seat as God does some of His best work through the trials people face.
Principles to Guide Your Thinking
Pastorally and biblically, what should you be thinking as you come into the room or situation?
- I am not the Savior...I cannot fix or save this person
- I am here to embody the love and presence of Jesus to them
- The Lord is authoring a story in this persons life...He has good intentions for them
- All pain is pain and matters to God (there is no need or place for comparison)
- Weep with those who weep (Rom. 12:15)
God is a God of compassion and mercy, He is near to the broken-hearted
- This is holy, sacred ground and I will be encountering holy, sacred moments - this is a big deal
- There is always Good News because Jesus is alive and coming again to make all things new
Questions To Ask As You Prepare To Minister To Someone Struggling
- What kind of situation is this? What kind of suffering?
- How long has this been going on?
- What are the known facts?
- Where is this person’s heart & relationship with Jesus?
- How strong/weak is their faith in this moment?
- How helpful/mature is their support system (friends & family)?
- What kind of counsel/encouragement have they already been given?
- How long should I stay?
- Is there something practical I can do or bring them?
- How well do I know this person? Is there positive relational history to draw on or are we starting fresh?